I recently met a student in my office who said, “I was in a bad mood, so I didn’t work on the assignment.” When we are young, we think that our feelings are real because our thoughts are our reality, and we feel awful about it. We, humans, believe that our emotions are our reality. We are unconnected with our surroundings - the real world. As we grow older, we realize that our bad mood is just our bad mood and has nothing to do with the real world. You can be in a bad mood and know at the same time, that nothing out there in life is really wrong. You have learned a life skill that your bad mood is just one of the different types of mood, such as happy or exciting mood. It is one of the primary skills that we need to learn to grow that our feelings is different from the real word.
When we are young, we only view the world with our eyes. If we are hiding under the blanket in the living room, we think no one can see us. If we can’t see others, it means others can’t see as well. As we grow older, we start seeing things with different angles and perspectives. We learn that our opinion may only be right in our eyes. We slowly begin to gain objectivity about various things in life. Once you see something from a completely different angle as compared to before, you can’t un-see. The change is permanent. Gradually, the little things in life do not matter anymore because we have gained perspective of bigger things. You don’t think anymore with the view of white or black, all or nothing. You started to see things in grey shade.
There are many phases in human life that we unexpectedly deal. Call it mid-life crisis, a personal breakdown, or a spiritual awakening. I think these significant life-changing moments are our invitation to grow in both personal and professional life. They are times that require us to move beyond what we know, don’t know, or what we come to know. These perspectives or growth phases take us deeper into understanding our real purpose in life. You learn that everything in your life happens for a certain period, and then, you must turn the page to move on to the next chapter of your life.